DECIDE instead of SUICIDE….

“GREAT power comes with WORST experiences….Hence accept WORST experiences GRATEFULLY!!!”

           Life is a path having an unknown end. But sometimes some decide that end themselves. In 2013, suicide claimed the lives of more than a quarter of million Indians. That’s five times greater than all global deaths due to war and natural disasters combined.

           Suicide is the step that is taken by different categories of people like farmers, businessmen, common men, students, youths, aged ones, etc. As different categories of suicides have different causes and different impacts on society as well as the country, I would like to touch the topic of students’ suicide.

Shocking statistics:-

           India’s suicide rate has risen 8 percent a year for 10 years. According to a 2007 estimate, 45 percent of suicides involve people between 15 and 29. And WHO lists suicide among the top three causes of death in the age group 15-35. According to the Health Ministry, Over 16,000 Indian students had committed suicide in the last three years. These statistics clearly show that in the last three years on an average 15 students are committing suicide every day. This scenario really explains the need for awareness of this issue.

Main Causes of Students’ suicide:-

1) Depression

2) Exam Failure

3) Relationship Problems

4) Family Problems

Let’s see what these terms actually mean one by one…

1) Dangerous Depression-

            Depression is the root of suicides. It is a negative feeling in which a person wants to live alone, avoids communication, stops working, becomes less talkative, etc. Actually, depression is an impact of worst experiences on human behavior. Depression can lead to many mental disorders and also to suicide.

            So, how to win against this Dangerous Depression? Actually answer of this totally depends upon the reason for depression. On explaining the remaining causes of students’ suicide automatically the solution of depression will get explained. 

2) Exam Failure-

           EXAM is the biggest tension in most of the students’ life. Taking exams very seriously is a really good thing but getting upset due to low scores is the main reason for depression. Failure is different for different students. For some students, 8.9 pointer is a failure because they failed to gain 9 pointer and for some students not scoring the passing marks is a failure. This is the game of expectations. An interesting thing is the impact of both cases of failures is the same and equally dangerous too. Just because of one failure in the exam which is nothing but a small part of life, students quit life. There are many sub-reasons behind this act like family pressure, competition, college environment, etc.

           For this, the solution is being positive after each and every result of your life. Marks are just numbers and numbers can’t define a human being. If you are not good in academics that doesn’t mean you can’t do anything. Academics are just like a drop of water in the sea of LIFE. So dear students just remember one thing, academics is not the only option for your life or this is not the only way to become successful. Successes and failures are just like a game of the ladders and snakes. Work hard, search your path, start walking, set your goals and achieve them!! Also, the supportiveness of parents and teachers plays a crucial role in these cases. So parents should not force their children to do any course that he/she doesn’t like. Study without interest is just like doing a job without a salary. “Happiness is the ultimate goal of our life…Success is not a goal, it’s just a way to reach the Happiness…”

3) Relationship Problems-

          Everyone says to students that this is your student phase, don’t get involved in such things, concentrate on your studies, etc. But the fact is due to the age factor most of the students get involved in the relationship. Relationships are not the reason for students’ suicide but the wrong relationships and too much of mental involvement for such wrong relationships leads to suicide. The relationship is like a two-sided sword if you handle it well you can make your life better but if it goes wrong it can also take your life.

          Whenever the thought of suicide comes in a student’s mind due to a single relationship he/she must think of parents and think about what they had done until now. Is it fair to finish a beautiful life given by lovely parents just because of one wrong and foolish relationship?

Think what you have, what you can do, Love your beautiful life instead of loving the wrong person. Don’t expect someone will help you; your best helper is you, yourself!! Do what you like, what you are good in, work harder and make your life more awesome. Someone will go, someone will come but you must continue.

“You and you only are the creator and destructor of your life…Be Independent, Be strong then you can achieve whatever you want…”  

 4) Family Problems-

           Family problems are also the reason for students’ suicide. These types of suicides mostly occur due to tremendous family pressure, poor financial condition, lack of support from parents, etc. Parents can do something to reduce the rate of these suicides by supporting their children, taking care of family pressure, etc. If someone is financially weak then it’s really hard for her/him to concentrate on goals and life. 
          To overcome these situations you must trust yourself and your family too. Love your family, solve family problems together, act as a single unit then you can survive with any situation. Remember that, “Difficult situations are just like hammering on a diamond to make it more beautiful….You are a Diamond so don't be afraid of hammer…”

One Awesome Idea-

          We all know that the government has organized a committee to stop ragging called an anti-ragging committee. Ragging can be also the reason behind suicide and this is totally in the hands of the institute. So the idea is just like the anti-ragging committee there must be a committee of anti-suicide. In which there is ahead of the committee in each college which manage all the coordinators of each class. Actually, the idea is in each class assign two coordinators one is for boys and one is for girls which are the students of that class having a positive approach towards every situation of life. The work of these coordinators is to motivate all students who are less talkative, mostly upset, mostly alone, etc. And try to build positivity and self-confidence in everyone against the suicidal thoughts so that no one will think of suicide. By this way, we can take an important step against the students’ suicide….

“Problems are the confirmation of your strength…You are Facing problems means you have the strength to overcome from them…”

  I hope this article helps to reduce the rate of students’ suicide in India.

Thank you!!

-Malhar Devasthali